Choose one capacity people rely on in you.
It may be endurance, precision, calm, physical strength, availability, or the ability to finish difficult work.
Do not decide that the capacity is unhealthy.
For one week, record three moments when you use it. Keep the observations concrete.
First, write what the moment actually required.
Second, write how much of your capacity you used.
Third, write what happened after the demand ended.
Did the strength release when the work was finished?
Did you keep applying it because another task genuinely required it?
Or did the effort continue after its purpose had disappeared?
At the end of the week, review the three moments. Ask one question:
Was I using this strength, or was I proving that I still had it?
Was I using this strength, or was I proving that I still had it?
The distinction will not always be clear. That uncertainty is useful. The purpose is not to become less capable. It is to notice whether capacity still has direction.
If the pattern involves prescribed exercise, rehabilitation, medication, or treatment, do not change the plan from a newsletter exercise. Bring the observation to the clinician responsible for that care.
It goes with last week’s essay, What I Got Wrong About Strength.
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Dr Shiv Kumar Goel is an internal medicine and functional medicine physician and founder of Prime Vitality Care in San Antonio. Across 25 years in hospitals, intensive care, and functional medicine, he has studied the gap between what medicine can measure and what patients actually live through. He writes Healing the Split and is the author of the forthcoming book The Unread Life.