Choose one behavior other people praise in you.
It may be answering every message. Training through exhaustion. Skipping lunch because the work matters. Saying yes before you have checked what the yes will cost.
Do not change it yet.
For seven days, write down four things when the behavior appears: what happened just before it, what you predicted would happen if you stopped, what your body was doing, and what the behavior cost you six hours later.
Keep the observation plain. Tight jaw. Missed meal. Faster pulse. Irritability at home. Waking at three. No interpretation is required.
At the end of the week, ask one question:
Is this practice still serving the life I have, or protecting me from a consequence that belongs to an earlier one?
If the behavior involves prescribed treatment, nutrition for a medical condition, exercise restrictions, or medication, do not change it from a newsletter exercise. Bring the pattern to the clinician responsible for that care.
This practice goes with last week’s essay, The Day Discipline Became a Symptom.
Practices here are small, specific, and meant to be done, not admired. Subscribing is free, and it's how the next one finds you.
If someone you know is praised for the habit that is wearing them down, send this to them.
Which behavior did you choose? Tell me in the comments. I read them.
Dr Shiv Kumar Goel is an internal medicine and functional medicine physician and founder of Prime Vitality Care in San Antonio. Across 25 years in hospitals, intensive care, and functional medicine, he has studied the gap between what medicine can measure and what patients actually live through. He writes Healing the Split and is the author of the forthcoming book Healing the Split: When Your Biology Is Fighting Your Biography.